Sometimes something is bugging you, but you can’t quite figure out what it is. Exactly. You circle around it, but it’s in the centre and obscured. Maddeningly so. When this is the case, a lot of times that means that the answer lies in being asked the right question(s) that reveal you to you.
And as a Career Counselor, one of my favorite things to do is ask questions (as if you didn’t know!).
You need to be fearless when you answer though, so that means you need a safe place to write and share with yourself first and foremost. Because before you know what you want or need to do about something, you need to know that you have clarity on what’s really going on inside.
As an aside: You have no idea how many people are afraid to ask for what they need and want simply because they lack clarity on what they really want and need first. Because when you have clarity on what you want and need first, courage is so much easier than never procuring or pursuing something at all. And what you think you want is never actually a thing. It’s a feeling. (Surprise, surprise. I know.)
Clarity comes from knowing what you can do to help you create the desired feeling. But … you can’t get there without self-honesty and self-disclosure first.
So here are a few “magic questions” that can help to create the career clarity for life that you’re looking for. Your answers to the questions point you in the direction of your essence. Happy journalling. Take your time writing to say all that needs to be said. Be with yourself.
Les Questions (translation: the questions … I write from Canada remember?!)
:: What is challenging you about what you are currently experiencing? Details, details please.
:: What is supporting the birth of a life as the real you right now?
:: What feels too hard?
:: What do you need help with to cross or overcome right now? Where can you get this help from? What can you do? What resources can you reach out to?
:: What do you need to do in your own life for your own evolution (if life is feeling a little squishy on your being)?
:: What are you no longer okay with that it’s time to admit to?
:: What actually brings you contentment in your own life right now?
:: What have you been trying to pretend is “fine” that’s actually not?
And then … read what you wrote. As you read, your body, your feelings, your responses, your reactions will help you to see where you are judging yourself, where you withhold from yourself, and where you need your compassion.
This might be the first time you’re paying real attention to yourself.
Don’t always treat yourself like you know who you are. You are a mystery unfolding.
Answer the questions every day if you like. Or ask one each day, every day. Your answers might even surprise you. Writing truthfully in your own presence is one of the ways that you can cultivate that feeling of self-trust we all crave in our own life.
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