A life is full of reasons to …
… not share your real self
… build your life around one value: security
… work because “you have to”
… keep your dreams a secret (even from yourself)
compare your “progress” to others + not believe in yourself.

So I exist to write + teach + inspire you to believe in yourself.

Which really means that I show you how to make your own fairy tale career come true. Because now that you’re here, it means you’re old enough to start believing in fairy tales again.

My name is Sabrina Ali. And I’m a Career Counselor.

I work with professionals and executives under 40 (virtually + around the world) that don’t feel fulfilled by the careers that they worked so hard for. So what I do, is I teach them how to become their own Career Advisor. If this applies to you, you’ll know this: You’re busy people who still want wisdom and sense in busyness. Because there’s nothing quite like navigating your career path with confidence, clarity while being true to yourself.

I invite you to fill out the tiny form on the right so that we can rendez-vous in your inbox (right now about 2-3 times a month). Below is where the library of articles begins (you’ll always be the first to get them if you’re on my very confidential list + some more private messages about what’s going on behind the scenes). Here is where you can find a road map in digital form (something I created just for people experiencing career disappointment + dissatisfaction), to learn more about me, click here and/or how I may be of assistance to you?

If you’d like, you are always welcome to drop me a note. You can do that here.

Make yourself at home. xo

4 ways to get calm when faced with stress at work

Work stress can be anything that creates the seed of anger within. And long-standing stress is unequivocally unhealthy even though we think of it as normal.

But like many things, all that is normal, isn’t necessarily healthy.

The number one way that you keep the stress loop going is by minimizing its impact on yourself, your work, and the people around you. And without proper care, stress will run your life … into the ground.

Even though stress is an expected part of life, you can learn how to be mindful about creating strategies that keep you more balanced so that you’re not caught off guard repeating cycles.

You are doing yourself and your community a favor when you create early detection systems as well as healthy habits.

And however stressful stress may be, let’s not forget that your piqued stress response isn’t an enemy. It’s a predictable human response that tells you that a need isn’t getting met or that you are pitting needs (that are equally valid) against one another.

For example, it’s okay to want freedom and security. Or rest and adventure. But we don’t necessarily always go about meeting those simultaneous needs sustainably.

What you’re needing in these moments of stress is awareness. But awareness is hard to come by without planning for the inevitable.

It’s a little-known fact that the more you like who you are, the more self-awareness you allow into your life.

So what can you do to get calm so that you can deal with the stress of your situation? How can you get back to being productive and effective as quickly as possible? How can you like yourself more to increase your self-awareness?

Here are 4 strategies plus some rationale for what you can do:

:: Acknowledge how you are really feeling to yourself.

Rationale:
When you won’t admit how you feel to you, you end up being the very person that you don’t want to be at work.

In an irritating moment, you could be escalating the situation and not even be aware of it only to regret it later. Whereas, if you admit how you feel to yourself first, your energy and what you can control will return to you.

:: Breathe.

Rationale:
Sounds simple enough but you’d be amazed at how disjointed, shallow, or disassociated you are from your body when you’re experiencing stress. Your body is having the mammalian response it would to physical danger – like something is going to jump out of the bushes and eat you.

If you can gather your wits about you to breathe fully and deeply into your belly in a soft, measured way you’re going to start to feel like your vital signs have returned to normal more quickly than you’d think. Instant calm.

:: Have a regularly scheduled appointment with a professional.

Rationale:
It’s kind of amazing (read: unreasonable) what we’ve come to expect of ourselves in modern times. There’s the house, the kids, the social media updates, the real friendships, the car, the vacation, the renovations, the presentations, the grocery shopping, the laundry, the house cleaning… it’s a lot.

And then on top of that, there are the hassles that come as part of becoming a fully realized human being that has something to contribute through their work.

It’s amazing that you remember to breathe at all, but even so, having a professional that’s there for you to help you process, digest, and metabolize your human experiences is what actually helps you to exist as a calmer version of yourself in the first place. Otherwise, things build up to steal your calm.

Is it an investment of time and energy and money?

Yes, but if it’s effective, it’ll be the best money, time, and energy you ever spend. If you’re the support that you expect yourself to be and ask other people to rely on, having someone there is a sure way not to falter for those you want to offer yourself to.

:: Rest well.

Rationale:
Though we live in a world where “work” and “life” are thought of as compartmentalized, this isn’t how it actually works. Not being able to turn your mind off when you get home from work will tell you that this is the case. So if you want to truly be someone that keeps calm, then rest well.

I’m not necessarily talking about catching your zzz’s – although that’s ideal, getting enough sleep comes from resting your strengths by giving them fun tasks and not just the tasks that have to get done.

Things like reading, doing a puzzle, building a snowman, going on a bicycle ride, stopping at the beach or the park on the way home to play with the kids, or browsing through the greeting card collection at your favorite store. These are mini vacations and as valuable as anything else that you do.

You’re not human if you don’t know how to rest well and you’re definitely not calm if you don’t rest well. If you’re struggling to make any rest time for yourself, I suggest pursuing number 3 until you realize that you matter, just not in the way that you think.

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October 13, 2017 tagged as: ,

when a career counselor career transitions

When I started this website and online library (I don’t like the word ‘blog’), I didn’t know what it would become. I was a Career Counselor and that’s all I knew. And then I started to write articles … about career counseling. I worked one-on-one with clients (still do) and did cameos in corporations that…

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September 17, 2017 tagged as:

5 signs you should’ve never taken that job

Job offers are seductive. You feel so rewarded for all that effort. You won. You’re the one out of all the other possible applicants that got offered the job. You even celebrated this fact with a night out, a new outfit, or a toast. But as we all know, the high of receiving the job…

the art of career storytelling (for better resumes, interviews, and self-awareness)

As you know, most people don’t like working on their resume content. The endless tinkering can feel asinine. If that’s how you feel though, you’re in the right place. Because refining resume content ought to increase, rather than decrease which is often the case, self-understanding and confidence. I think we’ve all had the experience of…

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September 23, 2016 tagged as: ,

the secret to writing unique, professional, and intriguing resume bullets

Let me guess … you don’t like resume writing. And I wouldn’t blame you. There’s a lot riding on crafting resume content. To elaborate on why this is so important, your resume content gives employers information about your self-esteem, what you get offered in the way of renumeration should you receive a job offer, in…

how to create and amazing resume letterhead (part 3)

If you’re just joining this series specifically on resumes, click here. Rebecca’s letterhead and design story: Rebecca was an Engineer and believed that in her field, employment applications looked and sounded a certain way. No exceptions. To deviate from the look and feel of what was expected in a resume was to risk not getting…

magic questions (for self-realization)

Sometimes something is bugging you, but you can’t quite figure out what it is. Exactly. You circle around it, but it’s in the centre and obscured. Maddeningly so. When this is the case, a lot of times that means that the answer lies in being asked the right question(s) that reveal you to you. And…

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February 1, 2016 tagged as: ,

what’s your soul’s story?

The soul. It’s this “thing” that’s not a thing at all. And it’s called many, many names that make it personal and meaningful to the human that the being-ness of you resides in. I don’t claim to be able to explain to you what a soul is exactly. But, I’d be lying if I said…

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January 1, 2016 tagged as: ,

are you paid to be nice at work?

Grade 11 was the worst year of my life. Knowledge that my step-father had sexually abused me when I was younger reached the authorities and I was going to have to testify in court. At about the same time my boyfriend had broken up with me and I had no idea why. I was interviewed…

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November 25, 2015 tagged as:

how to create an amazing resume letterhead (part 2)

Want Part 1 first? Here it is. Corey’s resume letterhead and story: When Corey and I started work on her resume she claimed that her work history had no rhyme nor reason to it. She’d done a little of this, a little of that, and some other stuff too. And if you didn’t know any…

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October 26, 2015 tagged as: ,
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